Completely Life Changing
I knew I had to join Get Over Him because I knew that my daughter was coming home and I did not want to be like this for her. I wanted to be her role model. So I had to be done or else I was going to be this way the rest of my life. If I didn't do it then, I was never going to do it. This man was draining me financially, emotionally, and mentally. But I was so in love with his potential that I would literally beg him for any breadcrumb or scrap. I remember bawling on the floor wanting so badly for him to just hold me, and he would say, "Nope, I'm going to work out." or "F your crying." I went to see a psychologist and a psychiatrist because he said I had BPD (turns out he's the one with BPD). This man just kept me hooked with his manipulations and his victimhood. If he had asked me to marry him I would have married him. I am so glad I didn't. I was just exhausted all the time. I thought I was crazy, I thought this was the best I was going to get, this was going to be the rest of my life. I was setting myself on fire to keep him warm. Finally, I decided that it was time to direct all that effort and energy and attention to ME. I NEVER thought I would get to where I am today. Every day in the company of other focused women and Cherlyn's help, things just became more and more clear. I was able to look at my toxic relationship and see how he manipulated me. Being in the company of so much support has been so great. Yesterday, I did an 8k. I sold my own house and am living in a great new place. I even fixed up my own bathroom, rather than rely on him to do it. Today, I'm in the best mental and physical shape of my life. It's so good to get out there and be with friends without the ex, and to have that focus on progressive goals without him defining who I am. The Get Over Him program has transformed me, and I am no longer looking back.