Adam Lane Smith

Hi Christiane, I am thrilled to hear that coaching turned out to be successful for you, and that Lisa was such a tremendous help. She is indeed very kind and empathetic. Glad that she came through for you and gave you what you were looking for. Regarding the change partway through, I understand it can be jarring to have a sudden change happen like that. It can also be frustrating when the reason cannot be given. Thank you for staying with the program, for reaching out and being direct with me about what you needed, and for continuing to invest in yourself rather than giving up. I hope your incredible new relationship blossoms for many years to come. -Adam

Hi Ghaliyah, thanks for the honest review! Boundaries with fathers can be especially tricky, and I know some cultural elements can make that more challenging as well, so I'm thrilled to hear your dad is working better with you in your relationship. I hope you're able to continue building a more peaceful relationship with both of you. It does take longer to build a secure life, for sure, but we are always here to help. Let us know how we can help you move forward as you grow into your new secure skills! -Adam

Hi Abby, I am so glad your husband found us in time! I know how jarring it can feel for your spouse to say "Hey, there's this person I found online, I think we should listen to him," so thank you for taking the risk in believing in our team and the work we do here. How wonderful that you both got what you needed and built the bond you were both called to share. May you have many more happy years together! -Adam

Hi Estefanie, and thank you for giving this feedback, it helps me to make sure we are taking care of people in the best way. I love to hear you are feeling more present in your family and are giving yourself more grace, that's exactly what secure attachment is supposed to bring: peace and purpose. I will pass this review along to Irina as I'm sure she will be thrilled to hear you're feeling so great in your relationships. Well done, and keep practicing secure connection with your loved ones! -Adam

Hey Shawn, thanks for taking the time to write this review. Glad to hear we were able to help you learn in the right way and give you the exact steps you needed. Wishing you the best as you move forward! -Adam

Hi Richer, even with fifteen years and being childhood friends, the roommates trap is one of the most common things couples run into, so I'm glad you came in to get it handled. Great to hear the tools actually made a difference for both of you and that you've found your way back to passion, and also glad you found it worth the investment. Wishing you both many more years ahead! -Adam

John, love this. There's a real misconception that this kind of work is only for people early in life or early in a relationship, and I'm glad you didn't buy into that. Good to hear the coaching, calls, and resources all came together for you and finally got you what you've been looking for all along. Wishing you and your wife continued growth ahead! -Adam

Hi Kimberly, Adam here, and this is beautiful. A year of watching from the sidelines before taking the leap and then having it pay off like this... that's the story right there! I live to hear triumphs like this one. And I love that the journey led you back to your femininity and your faith, honestly that's some of the most meaningful growth there is. Irina is going to love reading this. So glad she was the right fit for you. Keep going, you're just getting started! -Adam

Hi PSD, Adam here. Thanks for taking the time to leave an honest review like this. I agree that quiet disorganized identification is one of those moments that tends to hit people hard in the best way, because it finally makes sense of something that never had a name before. Really glad that clicked for you. Irina is indeed wonderful and I'm glad her warmth came through the way it did. If you ever want to go deeper with us, more sessions are always available and we'd love to keep working with you. And the group is there whenever you're ready to lean into it more consistently, and you've likely seen the strong improvements happening in the last month as well. I look forward to connecting with you more over there. Finally, I'm really glad the nervous system and conflict work translated into real life with your family and friends. That's exactly what it's designed to do, and I'm thrilled to hear you're feeling better there. Keep practicing those skills, they do compound over time. And we are here to help. -Adam

Chuck, this made my day to read! Irina is fantastic and I'm so glad she took such good care of you. The handout system is something we put a lot of thought into for exactly the reason you mentioned, for keeping you present in the conversation instead of buried in a notepad. Really glad the site resources were helpful on top of that. Wishing you all the best as you keep moving forward! -Adam

Erin, wow. This is the kind of message that reminds me why we do this work. The fact that you took what you learned and walked into a potential conflict at a store, regulated yourself, and came out the other side feeling good about how it went... That's the whole point. Information alone doesn't change lives, the implementation does, and you did that work. Alyssa is going to love reading this. So glad she was such a good fit for you. Wishing you and your marriage all the best going forward! -Adam

Joseph, thank you for taking the time to write this. What you did takes real courage, and as a parent myself it warms my heart that you're doing the hard work not just for yourself but also for your daughter. Going from that dark starting place to now experiencing genuine understanding and respect between you two is exactly why this work matters, and that shift came from you showing up. So keep showing up. I'll make sure Andrey, Elise, Jeremy, Lukas, Mathieu, and the rest of my team see your words. They'll be glad to hear how this story played out. Thank you for trusting us with something so personal. We're rooting for both of you. Adam

Hi Momo, Adam here. Thank you so much for leaving this review. I am THRILLED beyond words that you are finding so much relief, as I know personally how painful these attachment issues can be. Excellent work on applying the material and WELL DONE finding creative workarounds for the limits you're facing. Keep moving forward with your journey, because the relief is only the first step, and there is so much joy possible in your future relationships. And let me and my team know what help you need as you move along. We are always here to assist.

Hi Nichole, it is excellent to hear you and your son are up to 8 out of 10 so fast! That's a huge improvement in a very short time (10 weeks!). Well done to both of you. This is the power of secure attachment, and you've unlocked it as a family.

Hi Basil, thank you for this excellent and thorough review. Marriages can be so complex sometimes, especially with disorgnized attachment being involved, and Alyssa is indeed an excellent coach with a talent for picking out the narrow path to success. I'm glad you had this helpful experience working with her, and it's wonderful to hear you and your wife are doing so much better together in your relationship. May you both enjoy many happy years together going forward!

Hi Dan, so good to hear you found the results you were looking for with our team. I know the skills and experiences approach usually shocks most people who wondered previously why therapy hadn't helped. Glad you got your breakthrough!

Hi Ulrike, great to meet a fellow Psychology colleague. I was a therapist myself for many years and I can confirm - knowing the material is not the same as being able to use it at home. I'm thankful you trusted us enough to give this a try, and it's wonderful to hear you got the breakthrough results you were looking for in your marriage. I also wish attachment could be part of psychotherapy training, and maybe someday it will if I have my way, but for now the good news is that you can leverage your knowledge of attachment science in how you help people going forward. That's how we all help make the world a more loving place. Cheers to you and your husband!

Hi Maria, Adam here. Thank you for sharing this. It means a great deal to us that you were able to find the love you'd been looking for, especially in how you’re showing up for your children and relationships, which will be carried into future generations so they can grow up without ever knowing this pain you faced for so long. Well done in conquering it. I’ll be sure Alyssa sees this, I know she’ll really appreciate it. Our whole team wishes you and your family continued strength and connection!

Hi Helen, I am thrilled to hear you and your husband are doing so well! Yes this work can change the dynamic faster than people expect, and it sounds like you're both into that second-honeymoon phase that often happens after repairing attachment together. Well done to both of you!

Hi Lucia, thank you for your kind words and for your trust. I know it takes a lot to invest in a program like this, and it means the world to me when my team comes through and helps a family like yours. Excellent work investing in your future, and I hope your children carry these skills and wisdom forward as part of your legacy.