Cherlyn Chong is a breakup recovery and dating coach for high-achieving professional women who want to get over their exes and find love again. Leveraging from her own corporate experience, she uses a combination of science, high-performance tools, and energy modalities to help successful women supercharge their recovery process, break toxic relationship cycles forever while gaining the confidence to meet the right man.In addition to being a regular advisor for Elite Daily and Business Insider, she has been featured on The League dating app, Tinder, Zoosk, AskMen, MSN, Mindbodygreen, Yahoo Finance and Huff Post.
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We can’t go through life alone, especially when we are at our lowest point in life. A few years ago, I was at that point. The man I thought I was going to one day marry, decided to move half way across the world to be away from me. I had found out that he, an active duty military man, had also been active on the same site where we had met during the year and a half we were dating. I was also dealing with other major things in my life: the death of my sister, my parents were moving away to another state, and my teaching job that was beyond stressful. I was hopelessly alone and I was truly in a dismal frame of mind.
Then my life changed with Cherlyn.
A good friend had sent me The Huffington Post that featured Cherlyn’s comic. I’ve read it over and over and it truly had resonated with me. Even though I had never met her before, she was like me in a lot of ways, especially going through the most dreadful experience of heartbreak and loss. It was a comic that I would’ve done. The comic led to her website, which allowed me to reach out to Cherlyn, who was quick to respond.
She had scheduled two free video sessions with me. I remember our first video session was in the Fall of 2017. She was welcoming and made me laugh a lot. She was as if I was talking to one of my best friends! That was how comfortable she made me feel. Not only is Cherlyn a talented artist, but she really knows her craft of working with the psychology of relationships. She’s got a plethora of knowledge backed up with legit research, but presents it in a way that normal people like me understand. She was able to read me right off the bat, in an honest way that I’ve never saw myself. Here I was a single woman living solo in the big city of LA, approaching my mid thirties, emotionally scarred from heartbreak, grief, and stress. It was clear that I couldn’t deal with my issues on my own. Fed up, I did not have the time to waste on going through the same heartache. I wanted to move forward in my life and I’ve trusted Cherlyn to help me through. For once, I needed to choose my well being and happiness—and that was investing in myself to heal from heartbreak and start a new chapter in my life.
During our sessions, we took a close look into my relationship past. Cherlyn was able to help me identify patterns in the men that I’ve dated and why I tend to put up with the wrong men. She also helped me understand my habits during dating that allow myself to be hurt in the end. With Cherlyn, I was able to get over my ex in just a little over a month! Without her (and also the support of her Facebook group) I probably would have been wasting my life away trying to get my ex back. NOPE! I don’t need that form of toxic relationship back in my life! I needed to focus on myself first before dating anyone new. I’ve been on a few dates during my year of being single but Cherlyn helped me date myself, first and foremost! Cherlyn formulated a specific action plan in my life and acted as my accountability person. She not only helped me in my personal life, she helped me with my professional life. Within a few months working with her, I’ve got a new job as a teacher and moved out state to be closer to family.
Not long after I moved, I had met the love of my life. Within 3 weeks, he told me he didn’t want to see anyone else and asked me to be his girlfriend! Here was a man who wants commitment just as much as I do! Committed men do exist! I’d love to think it was all because I was just lucky. But really, it was because I AM FABULOUSLY AWESOME.. and so are YOU!! Can I hear an Amen?! YAS!! It takes commitment to ourselves to show how fabulously awesome we are. With the amazing support of Cherlyn, I’ve
gained the confidence to know myself well and not repeat the same mistakes. Without her, I would have been still lost in the dark side of dating. Now I’ve seen the light, and I am the happiest I’ve ever been. I am with a man who is not only is beautiful on the outside but beautiful on the inside. He treats me with love and respect and makes me laugh and smile like no other. Don’t lose hope ladies, your man is out there for you! However, in order to find him, it takes action on your part!
For those who are on the fence about whether Cherlyn’s help is worth the price tag... IT SO IS! Think of it as choosing to invest yourself first. If money is an issue, Cherlyn offers reasonable payment plans. I am a school teacher so I know that I have to be mindful about how I spend my money.
Bottom line: I would not be where I am without Cherlyn. This is why I want to let every person who is experiencing a broken heart about the work Cherlyn does. She can help fix it and make your heart whole again. If you want to turn things around, the choice is yours. By choosing to work with Cherlyn, you are choosing your “happyness.” CHOOSE YOU.
Before I met Cherlyn I was in a complete low state of mind. My ex-boyfriend of almost 5 years and I broke up. He was my first love, and first everything else, so I truly was having the hardest time getting over what had happened. I felt so miserable, hopeless, like I was never going to get past the hurt and betrayal that I felt, since he had already broken my heart before and then begged me to take him back... The betrayal I felt was endless, and I truly believed that it would take YEARS before I could ever put myself in such a vulnerable position and gave myself another chance in love.
After our work together it felt like a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders. That anger, hurt and confusion over what happened, that nobody else seemed to have the answers for Cherlyn did, and that was honestly amazing to me. People always give you this ambiguous answers when you just go through a break up, not Cherlyn, she went straight to the point and just knew. Her knowledge and the fact that she had answers to questions that felt would never get answers for is something that to this day I feel helped tremendously in my process of moving on.
Working with her made me want to do better, to be better, I was tired of feeling miserable, and she gave me all the right incentives to push through those doubts and conflicts in my head. It was such an important change for me. I was so caught up with my ex, and so dependant on him, I didn't really notice it until we broke up. Being with Cherlyn helped me realize this, proved how absolutely wrong that was and how I could be successful and a badass all on my own. That I didn't need my ex or any other man for that matter to help me be a successful and stable adult. I had the whole power to do it on my own, and to be grateful and realize how far I had actually gone in my life as it is, and that was not my ex's doing, but mine. She showed me how to OWN IT, and for that I am extremely grateful to her.
I would recommend Cherlyn to women out there who really are just done with their ex bull****, but also have the financial ability to do so. As someone with low income this could be a very difficult thing to follow through due to that factor, and I believe that if I had any reservations it would be that, so just as long as you are sure you can afford this, as well as want to follow through the program then I would say %110 go for it!
If you truly feel that you're tired, want to work on yourself and commit to it, then she is the one for you :)
I am eternally grateful to Cherlyn and her program steps to happyness!!! I owe her my life!! When I joined her program (I first joined her FB page) I was in such a deep state of despair, sadness and felt really depressed when my partner left me after cheating. I felt as though I couldn't go on. NOW.... I have completely changed in more ways than I ever could have imagined. I got over my ex of 7 years (2 babies, an engagement and a house later) in 4 months!!! I've lost so much excess weight, meditate and practice yoga daily. I have completed a course and launched my very own business. I'm so much more calmer and relaxed with my children, have more energy, have a social life, have a new sense of confidence and have found my self worth. I would highly recommend anyone who's just gone through a break up to definitely contact Cherlyn, dive on in and get your damn life back with a new and improved version of your old self!! You seriously will not regret it! Cherlyn, I'll never forget you. Thank you, thank you, thank you xxx
I highly recommend Cherlyn Chong with Steps to Happyness!!
If you are heartbroken, in a toxic relationship, want to stop wasting time and move onto someone who will treat you right, Cherlyn Chong IS THE ONE FOR YOU!!! She will guide you and teach you with kindness and caring in her loving and assertive ways. I truly was amazed by her expansive knowledge base and highly recommended Cherlyn!!!
Cheryln came into my life at such a needed time. I had spent four years off and on with a man who was emotionally unavailable, did not follow through with his word, our plans and emotionally abusive at times.
During the last year of our relationship, he lived in my basement apt. It was very difficult to let go, his times of bread-crumbing and my false beliefs of..looking back at the good times and thinking I could get him back/change him...made it torturous at times. I knew I needed to get out and that’s when I found Cherlyn .
Cherlyn played such a role in expanding my knowledge, seeing the reality of my situation, pushing me along and guiding through my break up, self healing and onto dating. Cherlyn was a God send!!
The first time I spoke with Cherlyn, she introduced me to hypnosis and evaluated me for my needs and came to the conclusion that I was not ready.
She did not push and has such a sweet and direct way of understanding the process of breakups, healing and knowing when the right time is. Ultimately it’s up to the client to decide if the pain of the break up is stronger than the pain of holding on or letting go.
When my friends and family did not understand, She understood the reasons why I was still holding onto hope and desire while a big part of me was hopeless and knew I needed to get out.
When we decided the time was right, Cherlyn did online sessions with me where I learned so much. Her knowledge level on relationships, breakups, healing and dating is amazing and was so beneficial. Cheryln’s scope of expertise is so vast and helped me to learn: the first step to letting go was seeing that I needed to stop contact in which she was ok with tapering off for a short period before complete no contact, she also let me text her instead of him, Shame, why I feel it, why he does, how his shame storms will continue and makes his emotions difficult to process, turns into anger against me, how ultimately he is fundamentally flawed, incapable of love, belonging and beyond what I can handle, I deserve happiness.
She helped me to see that I can not change him and only he can change with major active therapy that he would be willing to get and even then the odds are not good. She helped me to see that I deserve so much better and that I should not give him anymore of the one thing that we will never get back, time. I learned about narcissism, personality disorders, stopping the toxic relationship and cycle of pain, the four horseman of relationships, healing myself, hypnosis, positive mantras, handling grief, steps towards healing meditation, reverse recovery, finding my identity again, matrix reimprinting and more.
From healing, she helped hold my hand and guide me through the dating process where I learned about personality traits, what to look for and avoid, how to sort out the red flags verses things to make note of, how to date, when to let go (this was difficult) to avoid wasting more time, directed me through some crazy dating situations and pushed me along yet stepped back to allow me to work things out and make my own decisions.
Since I’ve been with Cherlyn, I’ve sorted through several dates and now have been dating a really kind, sweet, passionate, adventurous and loving guy for two months. I know we have a ways to go but I have high hopes and see such potential. Cherlyn helped me to look beyond my major focus of chemistry which I did not feel initially, to see all the positive qualities, hold on to see and yes the chemistry came!
For those who are hurting now, I wish you the best in your journey towards healing and finding new life. I know that Cherlyn can help you along the way.
Thank you Cherlyn for all you have done to get me to a much better place in life!! You’ve Been a wonderful angel who has blessed me and helped me to heal!! 💗🙏💪
Cherlyn is great and helped me find relief from the pain I was feeling. Although I struggled with many emotions, she always made herself available to guide me through those tough times. She taught me a lot about positivity and changing my mindset, and though I had lots of trouble with that at the time, now I see that it makes all the difference. Before this, I was never able to let go of my exes for months, sometimes even years, but Cherlyn helped me navigate through the feelings and difficult emotions to change my path to a happier me.
Before I signed up for the Get Over Him program with Cherlyn and Steps to Happyness, I was really struggling to cope with my break up. It was a break up with my first serious boyfriend and I genuinely thought that I had found my person. I had found a place of belonging and he broke that hope for the future to pieces. I couldn't get any sleep for a week before I finally decided to see a doctor for some sleeping medication. But even with the medication, my sleep was broken. I cried myself to sleep and I woke up and cried in the morning. I was crying on the train on the way to work. I was crying at work. I was crying in the shower... all I did was cry for this man who did not deserve any more second of my time. I started having panic attacks from Thursday to Saturday. Saturday was our day together, and I was scared to death facing it alone. To make matters worse, my parents couldn't understand why I was feeling so broken and why I couldn't just turn off my feelings and go back to dating a week after the break up. I felt completely ill prepared to deal with this and I have never felt so alone in my life.
Cherlyn's program was split into several modules and each module was absolutely spot on as to how I was feeling. There was homework at the end of each module and she held me accountable to complete them. Her sessions were so insightful, and they made me go "OH! I'm not crazy for feeling like this!". She made me understand where the feelings came from and what they actually meant to me and why I was feeling that way.
Because she made me accountable to do the work, I truly started to heal. I got over my ex in a little over 1 month! I didn't think I would ever get over him, let alone in as little as 5 weeks! She doesn't make empty promises of miraculous painless method. You do have to put in the hard yard, and yes, it will be painful and yes, it will suck going through the pain for a little while. But I can truthfully say that it is worth every single cent that I spent for this program. It is only by going through the pain, can you finally move forward, and she helped me do exactly that! I'm happy to announce that I can sleep without any meds now and the sleep are no longer broken. I sleep for at least 7 hours! ^^ Saturdays have returned to just another day for me to relax or catch up with chores.
I would recommend Cherlyn's program to anyone who is completely done with feeling stuck on their ex and is willing to commit 100% to her program. Her work is truly a blessing, and I am grateful to have found her! ^^
Cherlyn is awesome. She has helped me sooo much with getting over a break up from a toxic ex, reducing my anxiety (social anxiety and panic disorder), and loving myself more while trying to find a romantic partner. She’s helped tremendously with my mindset in these areas and also with my business pursuits of how to attract jobs and clients (I am an actress). I’ve worked with Cherlyn for a year and I don’t think there’s been any problem to come up in my life that she wasn’t able to help me with. She has all different tools and tactics she can use to help you feel more confident in yourself and in your life. She is always super available and has been there for me in last minute emergencies. Cherlyn herself trains with lots of different coaches and teachers so she is always up to date on new methods, which is so awesome. I can’t recommend her enough!
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