Long overdue but well-deserved!
I guess this one's a bit overdue. :) Shoutout to Cherlyn! It was the 3rd or 4th Q of the year 2018 when I decided to book a call with Cherlyn. That time it had been around 21 months already since I found out that my LDR ex (of 6 years) was getting married to another girl, someone he introduced to me online as a friend and whom I started caring about as a younger sister who needed advice and support. I was stuck in a cycle of blocking and unblocking him and that girl. They were already married for months during that time of the year that I decided to ask help from Cherlyn. When I heard that the marriage already happened, the last bit of hope died out, but it didn't stop me from having a so so life that still revolved around the betrayal, hurt, and pain from that experience. During that time also, I was in a relationship with a guy who basically used me in so many ways and gave me trauma. I broke up with him thrice. The last time I did, he told me he will never come back anymore because enough is enough. Well, he was mad that I was consulting with Cherlyn about him, and that the feedback from her and my other friends were negative. Less than two weeks after our breakup, he was already seeing another woman and in less than a month became facebook official with her. They are now married and with a child. Two or three months into our relationship, Cherlyn advised me to stop seeing him because he wasn't good for me, but I was stubborn and I wanted to prove to people that there is good coming out of that relationship. I was wrong, and until now he still owes me money. (LOL) There was a time during my relationship with the second guy that I walked out of my own room while he was asleep at 3 AM and went to a park nearby and wept like I never had done before. I was cursing both exes while sitting on a bench in that park and talking to the stars why I am hurting so badly. My sessions with Cherlyn and the modules from the GOH program helped me a lot in setting my priorities straight and setting up goals that I have lost sight of. I managed to get over the first ex in less than 2 months after being stuck for 21 months before. I managed to break free as well with the second ex. It was good luck that I was still undergoing Cherlyn's program when I was with the second ex. I got rid of the trauma that I got from the second ex with Cherlyn's guidance. Three years after breaking up with the first ex and I am so much happier now. Last month, he told me he can't stop thinking about me, and that he was truly sorry for what he did to me. I had the foresight to tell him years ago that he will never be truly happy with her, and he told me exactly the same thing last month. Am I happy that he said those things? Not really. Because I wish them happiness and not suffering. But I did tell him to work on his marriage, and that I will block him completely if he repeats those words to me. Relying on time to heal the wounds is not a good idea. Talking about the pain for months to friends who eventually got tired of me talking about my exes is not a good idea. I had to start doing something concrete for myself. I had to mindfully put myself on the top of that list of my priorities. Working on myself with Cherlyn's guidance is one of the best decisions I've made in the past years. And the results were not only about me moving on from toxic romantic relationships but also me starting to surround myself with healthy boundaries from all kinds of relationships, especially with my family and at the workplace. I am still a work in progress, but I am learning quite a lot, and I am positive that with or without a partner, I'd be happily thriving to reach my goals. Wishing you all the same!