Healing and Better than I ever was before.
Hi! I’m Reggi from US. I joined the GOH program during the summer of 2020. I had recently broken off my one year relationship with a very selfish angry emotionally and psychologically abusive man. I was struggling with letting go and moving on. I started out stalking Cherlyn’s FB lives in the mornings around 8am. She would always call me out when she saw me there bc I hadn’t joined yet and I was so hesitant about setting up the first initial call just for the consultation. I love her message and her promise of “not giving a f” about the ex. My biggest challenge prior to joining was dealing with the guilt...guilt that I wasn’t a good girlfriend, that I hadn’t tried absolutely everything, that I abandoned him, that I couldn’t just make things work, why did I have to have needs and dreams and desires and hobbies, why weren’t the times he wasn’t complaining and arguing enough to keep me happy? There’s two things that come immediately to mind when I think of how this challenge made me feel; Unsafe- There was no safe space to be myself and express my needs or likes and dislikes without being completely ignored Or invalidated. It wasn’t safe to care about myself and I didn’t have permission to believe that I deserved more than to be treated well some of the time and as long as things were going his way. Imprisoned- It felt as if he held the key to my emotional freedom and joy. I was not allowed to express my sadness or needs to him without there being a price to pay. And usually that price came in the form of guilt tripping and silent treatments. It was like having my entire voice box and soul locked away and hidden. I really wanted to get over him. But honestly I thought it would take a year, and I was okay with that thought. I really believed that would be the best to expect. But Cherlyn kept saying over and over that the women in her GOH program were getting over their ex’s so much faster. I didn’t fully believe that but I so desperately wanted to stop crying over him, stop second guessing my decision to end the relationship, and wanting to relapse back to him. I wanted to stop seeing him as the savior from the pain and loneliness I was drowning in everyday. OMG so much has changed! First of all I GOT OVER HIM lol!!! I still think of him but it’s not the same. The “Love Addiction” pulls are gone. He’s no longer on a pedestal as my king. He’s simply not important anymore. Secondly, I speak up for myself now. I had an uncomfortable situation to come up at work with my boss that I had to disagree with him. I stated why I disagreed, explained a pattern of disrespect at work, and I told him no to a request that he made. I held my position and maintained complete control of my emotions. There was a lot of dead air on that phone call LOL and I didn’t let it cause me to wobble! And thirdly, I take time for myself care. I don’t feel obligated to take a phone call when I need a hot bath. I don’t feel pressured to do things or respond to an invitation just because someone invited me to something. And I’m living my life with purpose, curiosity, and fun. The thing that I can say to anyone who is thinking of joining the GOH program is do it. Do it. Do it. It’s the best decision towards your mental health and emotional well-being you could ever make. Think of the health costs - loss of sleep, loss of energy, your happiness, even loss of your hair, loss of mental clarity, low self-worth feelings – just these things outweigh the cost of the price of the GOH program. Cherlyn’s program gives you back your mental clarity, your focus, your love of life, your joy, your happiness, your youthfulness, your sense of peace and your self again. And the fact that Cherlyn allows for the monthly payment plan option… That is a no brainer! It makes it so much easier and affordable. And all of the extra support from the ladies in the group, and no judgement....there’s no price on that. You’ll look back and be so thankful you did it.