From desperate to unapologetic!
When I first came to CHERYLNS program, I was stuck in a toxic cycle with a sociopathic person and I defined my worth through sex, and put my happiness into the hands of others. I had a lot of trauma growing up and repeated abusive relationships- of which I chose to be in due to my patterns and beliefs. Deep down I hated myself. I was angry not only at the men who wronged me, but mostly at myself for letting it happen and I couldn’t find my way out. I was using substances to cope and really on the verge of royally screwing up my life. CHERYLNS program was action based. I was ready to do the work. & she knew exactly how to help me. The EFT and deep trauma work that we did allowed me to go back in time and save my inner child in those horrific times. Absolutely it was intense but SO necessary to my healing and growth. Cheryln was patient with me, and so loving; she allowed me the safest space to reconnect with myself and become whole again. Her weekly written modules were so informative and eye opening. The combination of everything truly and I mean TRULY changed my life. I went to therapists all throughout my life with little effect. I would just talk for hours about the same issues but never got to the root. I still had a victim mindset, and just needed to unload all my crap onto someone else. This was different. Cheryln got to the root of my core and helped me to reframe the beliefs I had. She knew I didn’t have anymore time to waste. It was time to rip the bandaid. This all eventually led me to start changing my behavior and now I can be PROUD of the decisions I make. Today, I am not that desperate girl. Though it took extreme pain finding out my ex was seeing another girl at the same time- confirming everything my gut told me- I was able to get through it with the help of this program. I don’t know if I could have otherwise. I am now confident, empowered and so focused on my goals. I recoil from anything that doesn’t sit right with my soul and am protective of my energy. I spot red flags from a mile away and this time - I don’t ignore them. I walk away immediately. No second chances. F that! I have not slept with any guy for almost 2 months, and I plan on continuing this man ban until further notice. I am the happiest I have been in over 10 years. And this happiness is not contingent on a man. It is genuine happiness with who I am becoming. I have peace today. I am free today. I learned that in order to truly become a new version of you- we have to let go of our old selves completely. Everything I do today affects future me and I won’t abandon myself again. I can’t say enough about this program. It was worth every single penny and then some. We just have to believe WE are worth it. Thank you Cheryln for your wisdom, your leadership and for always keeping it real.